I write the words here.
Here's the rule I use.

If I wouldn't say it standing in the kitchen while someone told me their mom just got out of the hospital, it doesn't go on the site. That filter is the whole thing. Everything below is a working note from how the copy actually gets written around here.

We hold to a few quiet rules. They aren't commandments — they're defenses against the kind of writing that creeps into products aimed at people in pain, where the words try so hard to be kind they end up being dishonest.

The first rule is concrete. We say "medication list" when we mean "the medication list." We don't say "care ecosystem." If a sentence can survive being said to a tired person at the pharmacy counter, it earns its place here.

The second is peer-voice. The person writing the copy should sound like the cousin who's already done this — not the marketing team watching from across the room. That means first person when it fits. That means admitting when something's hard.

The third is calm. Caregiving is not a sport. There are no streaks, no badges, no confetti. The point of this product is to make Tuesday a little less heavy, not to gamify a hard year.

The last is honesty about limits. We'd rather say "this won't always work" than promise something we can't keep. If a feature has a known sharp edge, the page says so. We lose a little polish. We keep a little trust.

Say

When introducing the role

"Family caregiver." It names the role plainly, regardless of whether it's you, your dad, or the sibling two time zones away.

Don't say

When introducing the role

"Care champion." "Care hero." The words try to flatter and end up making the day feel like a performance review.

Say

When naming the person being cared for

"Care recipient." Or, if you know them, their actual name. Either choice makes clear that a real person is at the center of the work.

Don't say

When naming the person being cared for

"Loved one." It's tender. It's also vague in a way that lets the actual person blur. Names stay specific.

Say

When naming the family network

"Care circle." The people you've invited to share meds, appointments, and notes. It names who's in it rather than implying a hierarchy.

Don't say

When naming the family network

"Care team." That word carries clinical meaning. A family group isn't a care team — it's just the family, working in shifts.

Say

Around grief

"Lost a parent." Direct, specific, and honest. It says what happened without softening it into words that don't actually fit.

Don't say

Around grief

"Passed away." "Journey." Soft language can sit on top of loss without engaging it. We prefer the plain verb.

Say

About the app itself

"A shared place for meds, appointments, documents, and care notes." Plain nouns. Plain verbs. Clear product.

Don't say

About the app itself

"Powerful platform." "Beautiful tool." "Delightful experience." Adjectives that promise everything and describe nothing.

Say

About what the app does

"Reminders." That's the entire feature. One word. It does not need three modifiers.

Don't say

About what the app does

"Smart reminders." "Intelligent nudges." "Magic notifications." The product is a reminder. It doesn't need a halo.

Say

When something is hard

"It's hard." "Sometimes the right move is still calling the doctor's office." Honesty about the shape of the work.

Don't say

When something is hard

"We've got this." "You're never alone." Performative warmth is the easiest thing to write and the hardest thing to read on a bad day.

Say

About pricing

"Free to start. You only pay if your family outgrows the basics." Plain, factual, and it matches what the price screen actually says.

Don't say

About pricing

"Affordable peace of mind." Aspirational pricing copy melts when a caregiver reads it. Numbers and what they buy are kinder.

Family caregiver

Any family member or close friend doing the day-to-day care work — driving to appointments, calling the pharmacy, holding the medication list. Use plainly, in first person if the writer is one.

Care recipient

The person receiving care. When you know their name, use it — names stay specific. "Care recipient" is the term for general copy, app labels, and privacy language.

Care circle

The group of family members you've invited into a shared record. A circle isn't hierarchical — it's whoever has access to the same meds, appointments, and notes.

Care notes

Short messages a family member leaves for the others. Avoids the social-platform connotations of "posts," "updates," or "messages." Falls closer to a kitchen whiteboard than a feed.

Reminders

The whole feature. Don't add "smart," "intelligent," or "automated" unless something genuinely is. A reminder is enough.

Quiet by design

A signature phrase. Use when describing why we don't have streaks, badges, or notifications that celebrate the user. It belongs on settings, marketing, and the empty-state copy.

The kid getting the calls

Origin phrase from the About page. Means the family member who becomes the single point of failure during a parent's health crisis. Quote sparingly — it carries weight only when used directly.

Started, not signed up

"Started free," not "signed up." Caregivers aren't clicking a button — they're beginning something the family has been doing for years. Choose verbs that respect the weight of the moment.

Caregiving is hard enough. Our copy shouldn't be.

If something on the site doesn't sound like the kitchen test, tell us. We'd rather hear it than keep it.